Infant Wont Sleep

Hi my name is Alice,

I made this page to tell you about how I got my infant to sleep in seconds, without any hassle, and saved my sanity. I’m a regular Mom, and had tried all the advice in books and online, but I found an easy, safe way to actually get my newborn infant to sleep any time in a matter of mere seconds, and it literally changed my life.

Baby Now Sleeps Through The Night

Now that I’ve found this miracle, so many of my friends and relatives are asking me what I am doing, and how I could be so rested as a new Mom. I figured it would be a lot easier to share my story on this page and tell everyone how I got my baby to sleep fast, safely. Learn how I did it.

Not long ago I was exhausted and pulling my hair out. I had a rough last trimester and didn’t get much sleep the last three months of my pregnancy. I was looking so forward to seeing that little baby girl, and luckily the labor was fairly easy and the delivery was normal. I couldn’t wait to get her home.

The first week I expected it would take us some time to get into a baby routine, but then two weeks went by and I realized I had a wakeful baby on my hands – and that my infant wont sleep! I had already gone through all my new Mom books and talked to my doctor, but nothing seemed to keep the baby from staying awake. I tried holding her, walking her, rocking her, singing to her, etc. She basically would not sleep in her crib, she would not sleep alone, and would not sleep unless held – and even when I held her she would sleep very little some times. I was frazzled and grouchy.

I started to do a little research online and apparently there are hundreds of new parents who were in my same exact situation. So I thought maybe there would be an answer to this beautiful baby who wouldn’t fall asleep, and I could get some rest myself, one of these days. I surfed around the Internet and found tons of people selling all kinds of eBooks about helping your baby sleep. But hadn’t I already read a ton of books? How would another book help me?

How I Got My Baby To Sleep In Seconds And Saved My Sanity

Long story short, I ended up wasting money on a few stupid eBooks anyway – remember I was desperate and willing to try almost anything. I thought it was hopeless, until I found this incredibly amazing (and perfectly safe) MP3 soundtrack that instantly put my baby to sleep! It came with an implementation guide and step-by-step secrets to sleep success that were better than anything I’d read through before.

After I started using the soundtrack, my infant immediately started to go from being a wakeful, cranky baby to a more calm and happy baby. Mommy was happier too. My sister, who had trouble with her 6 month old sleeping, noticed the change in me right away, I was much more peaceful and rested. I told her all about the MP3 download and she ran over to the computer and got one for herself while we were on the phone one night when she called me crying because her baby wouldn’t sleep again – and it was two in the morning! That’s how easy it is to get a download online.

Just a few days later she called me back and couldn’t believe what a miracle it is! She said it even put her two-year-old to sleep too. I really believe both me and my sister would still be struggling with wakeful kids if I hadn’t found this, which is why I wrote this page for you.

You can get more information and specifics here…

CLICK HERE TO VISIT THE WEBSITE AND LEARN MORE

The site will explain it a lot better than I could, so I’m not even going to try to describe how it works and why.

I hope this helps you and your family! (it sure helped us)

-Alice Bentley

PS. I just found out last week that – you guessed it – I’m pregnant with my second baby. I’m so excited and feel much more prepared now to have a new infant in the home!

One Response to “How I Got My Infant to Sleep In Seconds and Saved My Sanity”

1. Mary says:

   February 20, 2011 at 9:33 pm

   I used this easy soundtrack to put my infant granddaughter to sleep too. She would not ever sleep in her crib at my house. Thank you for posting this page, Alice. The first time I used it to put my 6 week old baby granddaughter to sleep in a hotel room when traveling – she was crying so loud. Within a few minutes I noticed that my 3 year old nephew had fallen asleep TOO! It has been a God-send for all my family babysitting duties…

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my son is 15 months old and im not going to lie i got him in to the bed habbit of sleeping in my bed pretty much sence he was a infant and now i cant get him out of my bed ive tried everything he has a bed time routin takes a bath at 7 and is in bed by 8 i rock him to sleep then lay him in his crib he will stay in his crib till about 2 am maybe 4 if im lucky, he wakes up screaming and wont go back to sleep untill hes in my bed ive tried getting him a bear to go to bed with a blanket when i rock him he has to hold my hand or my hand has to be on his face to go to sleep i just dont no what else to do i caint leave him in his bed and let him cry ive tried that and ive gotten yelled at form the other people trying to sleep in the house i really dont no what else to do…..

7 Responses to “i cant get my 15 month old to sleep in his own bed?”

1. Katiesmama11 says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   Teaching your child to sleep on their own is an important life skill. I am not a heartless mom, I co-slept with my daughter for 8months. One of the hardest thing I did was teach her to sleep on her own, and thus listening to the crying. The drama of changing her routine took 4 days and she has been a great sleeper ever since
   (she is 23 months now). She loves her own bed and looks forward to getting in. I highly recommend the book healthy sleep habits healthy child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth. He really goes into the science of sleep and what your child needs. It is very practical and down to earth.

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2. mommy to a precious baby girl says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   I’m going through the same thing, my daughter is almost 16 months old and will not sleep in her bed. She screams and won’t go back to sleep unless she’s holding on to me. If you figure it out please let me know!! Good luck!

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3. Pinky says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   wow,no punctuation whatsoever…anyways…

   I think that 8pm-4am is 8 hours sleep. Plenty of enough sleep for a 15month old(plus a one/couple of naps during the day) I would try and make him go to bed later…maybe around 9pm?then he will sleep longer in the morning and might not wake up at 4am for you.But either way he is sleeping through the night by himself,he just then wants attention when his sleep is done and since you go back to sleep he goes with you.

   Isn’t it weird how watching some one sleep makes you sleepy?

   I would usually recommend letting him cry it out. But if there are other people in the house that may not be an option….

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4. squishy says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   I have a 2 year old, that wont sleep in her own bed,
   When you figure it out, let me know.

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5. anothergirl says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   Everyone in my family has done that. I don’t know how to make her stop, but a baby sleeping their parents bed greatly increases their chance of SIDS. It is very sad, but true. My parents had 6 children who slept in their (by their I mean my parents’) bed. None of them ever had a single health problem, but some people aren’t as lucky.

   If you have any more children, I recommend you make them sleep in their crib unless absolutely necessary.

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6. jane s says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   I had a similar situation long ago.

   Try giving your child a teddy bear when you rock him to sleep or when he cries in the night. Get him to get the habit of holding on to the teddy bear instead of you. Let the teddy bear stay with him when ever he’s in bed, even when he’s not sleeping. This way he’ll get more comfortable with the teddy bear.

   I hope this works for you….It worked for me =]

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7. Michelle M says:

   March 25, 2012 at 1:12 am

   my son is 14 months and wont sleep in his bed…he has to sleep in a playpen at the end of our bed….from what i hear it is a stage and they will get over it….i guess patience is the key for now…..
   i am in the process of trying to teddy bear thing to see if that works….let me know if you find something that works….we even put nightlights and a tv in his room and that helped little but he still wont sleep there…

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Because he likes to do the same to me and our two young children (ages 10 months and 2 years). He never helps with anything around the house except for mowing. He works from 9-5 and expects to come home to dinner on the table and a spot on the couch until he falls asleep. Meanwhile I’m up multiple times during the night with our infant son, do all of the housework, laundry, grocery shopping and cooking, am with the kids all day long with no break, and work part-time from home. I havent slept for more than four hours at once in over a year. I can’t even get a break on the weekends because it’s college football on Saturdays and NFL on Sundays and that makes it ok for him to be a non-parent during football season. I don’t get a shower unless I get up before 6 when the kids get up because he sleeps until 8:30 and then runs late and there’s no time for him to watch the kids for 10 minutes while I shower. I had the flu for a week last week and spent most of the day vomiting or almost-passed out on the floor trying to take care of the kids and the only thing he said to me was, "Well, why didn’t you take an Advil or something!" When I ask him to help he gets defensive and says he brings in the bacon and doesn’t get a break all day and wants to relax when he gets home. Meanwhile I spend a lot of mornings just crying in front of my kids because I’m just so exhausted and don’t know how I’m going to make it through the day. For some reason I end up losing any arguments we have, mostly because he wont listen to what im actually saying. I’m thinking about just pretending he’s not here. If I have to put myself last, I’d rather just bump him from the lineup completely. Can anyone relate?

8 Responses to “Should I just pretend my husband's not here?”

1. d-mon says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   sounds like he takes advantage of you

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2. C U Next Tuesday! says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   you are a spoiled brat.

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3. Aj says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Im sorry baby girl, i feel your pain.. dont ignore him. You sit down with him and talk. The awful truth is that he doeant realize what he has. You need a divorse, im sorry

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4. Denise Cortez says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Men do not seem to understand that parenting is a 24 hour job.
   He most likely will not change, you got one of the bad ones
   No matter what you say or do he is not going to change

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5. пчелиного меда says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   You, like many women, are married to a foolish, selfish idiot. He doesn’t appreciate or value you, or women in general, for the immense amount of (endless) work that they do. I don’t think you can change his mind about that because many people are just too ignorant to understand something like this. I would divorce and move on.

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6. Nicole Moore says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Oh honey, I feel bad for you I wish I could give you a hug. I have a ten month old also and I know how hard those sleepless nights can be especially having to take care of a toddler as well. Have you tried asking family members to intervene and talk to your husband? What about asking him to try counseling? Maybe he would listen to an outsider. Was he a caring man before you guys got married? If all else fails pray for your husband and pray God changes his heart. Wishing you the best of luck sweetie.

   P.s. good for you for being a good mommy and taking care of your little ones even though your husband won’t. They will know who took care of them and love u for it when they get older.

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7. Josh says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   dont take this the wrong way you should cut the guy some slack but in all fairness its not fair to you its in are dna to not notice certain things all the time not all guys im sure some perfect males out there with no faults. i use to be like that anyway worked constanly and thought im doing all i can for my family money wise until my ex and some friends just said hey look josh whats your problem and explained to me excatly what youve said but i changed to late unfortuanately its best to say something if you want things to change if pretend hes not there and it will just continue youll be unhappy and just be like AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH THE HELL WITH THIS one day and hell be like woah wtf and itll be to late just say something all guys are flawed in some way if i was told earlier i woulda quit my job and worked less and helped at home more we cant improve if we dont know what where doing wrong and dont let this happen to you

   WOW some of the words females wrote on this topic harsh i apolgise on behalf of any males who did this to any of you

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8. Perse says:

   December 10, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Sounds like a fair division of work…he brings in the bacon, you cook it. You need to realize you have the buttered side of the bread.

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My one year old when I put her down to take a nap or to go to sleep at night she will cry and cry and cry most children/infants will wear themselves out by time the cry for 15 minutes or so but my daughter wont she’ll just cry and cry and cry stomping her feet screeching and as soon as you pick her up she stops is she spoiled or is there some medically wrong with her?
She will go on and on and on has lasted up to 2 hours throwing these temper tantrums i really am at wits end
Im not mean i am a good mother I spend a lot of time with her. At night we have supper a bath a story,cuddling and then she falls asleep I hold her for about 30 minutes while she sleeps and when I slowly lay her down she wakes up and starts screaming. the 2 hours was when my mom had her
I have a family bed and had no problems with it at all (nor did she), I have only just tried to change it b/c my mom (mom of 5) says to not do those things b/c they will be spoiled and clingy. To think I am mean and not caring is wrong b/c i do care I was only trying to change the way it was b/c of what my mom said.

11 Responses to “My 1 year old crys when put to bed?”

1. janie says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   sorry had to use abbreviations as too long to post

   JoAnne according 2 child psychologist Eric Ercikson, the age 0-2 is when a child learns trust vs mistrust.

   When a parent meets the child”s needs &they can depend on u. they will learn trust. If not, they will not trust anyone &they will bcome clingy when older Showing they had poor attachment

   U are the apple of ur daughter’s eye-the 1 she needs more than any1 in the world.Trust me this stage will not last-1 day u will long 4 the day when u were everything 2her.She’s crying bcause she wants u.Babies dont even know yet=r learning th@ u &she r separ@e peple.

   in 1973 I had my first child. I didnt know much &the books were wrong,They spoke of getting ur child in2 its own bed soon&letting child cry it out.I kept him in our room as long as I could &then came the day 4 his own room.

   My child went crazy..he screamed&screamed & cried.Even writing this 37 years later,brings tears 2my eyes as I type.Every cell & instinct in me said 2 go 2my child but the book experts of the day said never ever do this-let them cry it out &they will soon get used 2it,

   I was crying as I struggled 2gnore my instincts & hearing my child crying 4me.Finally he stopped & fell asleep whimpering. When I came in in the morning, my baby was sucking his thumb&rubbing the silky edge of the blanket in a self soothing way.For the next 9 years he sucked his thumb & had 2bring the blanket which he called his creamy w/us dragging it along in the home.

   I had inadvertently allowed my child 2bcome attached 2an object instead of a living breathing loving mom.I feel I let me son down.Sure he stayed in his room & slept soon afterwards but @ wh@ cost?

   Im some 1 who learns fr/my mistakes & I tried 2B nurturing 2my child.My 2nd child came 6 years alter and w/him I practiced extended breastfeeding/child led weaning/nursing on demand &lots of nurturing, I learned fr/excellent mothers in my LaLeague league group.I carried my son around whenever he did not want 2st@ in his area or wanted me, Was doing the housework @ 3 am Was doing dishes w/a baby front pack &walking through the woods w/a baby backpack I used a family bed.

   I talked 2my older son & invited him in2 the family bed where they happily stayed 4a few years.The boys were very close-still are.

   when I was lacking sleep or feeling frustrated, I pulled out 2 yardsticks. I counted each " as a year. I looked @ 2 3 4 or 5 " in the length of the 72 " & saw wh@ a small part really of my sons lives th@ they needed me more than anything in the world.I was truly needed
   My son nursed till he was 4 &stopped on his own, When he was 5, he broke his elbow when he fell from small tree-the bone was sticking out,Was screaming in pain. He asked 2nurse I I nursed him on the way 2the hospital Thje 2nd he started 2nurse, he immedi@ely stopped crying, I was shocked @ how quickly th@ helped him. Every 1 told me is he gonna b nursing in grade school & how hes gonna b overly dependent.I knew theyre wrong though as all the laleche league moms who nursed till their child was older & self weaned shared 1 trait,extremely independence

   I wish I could go back & change the past.I wish Id nursed my oldest-not left him 2cry it out.But I can’t But wh@ I can do is try 2enlighten u as 2why ur childs screaming- why they stop. Its not 2manipulate.Its strong, innate need 4her mom-u r her everything-no being in life will ever have th@ intense need 4u again Shes tryingthe only way she knows 2get her needs meet 2bring u back 2her. When shes quiet its cause u are there. Shes learning crying bring u 2her. Why not instead b there 4hernot do wh@ever if is u need 2do as wh@evr it is, its not as important as giving ur child a strong loving, trusting relationship th@ will affect her far in2 the future.

   She is ur #1 job-#1chore..shes more important than ur housework/watching th@ show on tv her supper, bath story and cuddling went great as u were there.

   u might try lying w/her in a bed even going 2the family bed ucan do wh@tever but u b there If she sleeps u may b able 2sneak out if u are not moving her by slowly laying her down.Shes learning 2trust another person & th@ her needs will b meet-when they aren’t she learning people dont care about her needs (even if they do)-mistrust We all love our kids but some kids do not get th@ message..make sure urs does

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2. Brandy C says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   It could be that shes spoiled, no offense, but my niece (that i raised) was the same way. But you should get her checked as a precaution

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3. tripleaf19 says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   its instinct way back when it was survival of the fittest the baby humantype things that didnt make noise when they were seperated from their mothers in the dark probably died. maybe you should chill out in the room until she sleeps

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4. Alayne says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   oh mom you are a victim of manipulation! My son did and still occasionally does the same thing…he wouldn’t give up at 15 minutes…he never seemed to wear out and he could go on for days if I let him. The biggest mistake most parents make (including myself) is giving in to the child because they are tired of hearing them cry or they feel bad for the child. You just have to stand your ground and let the child know who’s in charge and eventually she will understand and give up. Just be more stubborn than your girl even if it takes weeks! If you don’t she will develop more bad habits the older she gets.

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5. Voyageur says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   She’s manipulating you. I know this break your heart, but read her a bedtime story, let her use the "I gotta go potty" excuse just 1 time, hugs and kisses, and then that’s it. Don’t go back in. Period.

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6. K says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   bwah ha ha

   Blind leading the blind in the ghetto here… Good christ.

   Your baby cries and cries and cries because you are an incredibly crappy parent. Seriously, your idea of putting your wee child to bed is: put her there and eff off and leave her to sob? Are you nuts?

   The whole milk-cuddles-stories routine that has worked for millennia for parents the world over — this had somehow not occurred to you?

   If you’re cool with leaving your own child to sob for two hours — god damn — make with the birth control from here on in. That’s some sick stuff, and I am amazed at the level of abuses people will admit to on here.

   "is she spoiled or is there some medically wrong with her?"

   Her mother doesn’t know how to mother; it’s nothing to do with her.

   Read up…

   http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0718/
   http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0684/
   http://www.naturalchild.org/articles/sleeping.html
   http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html

   If you do actually love your daughter — which I find a bit hard to believe given the hijinx you have posted about here — you do realise that you don’t get do-overs on this stuff, right? When your angry six-year-old is telling you to shut up and she hates you, you can’t go back and build a better foundation for your relationship with her from the early years on. When you’re a lonely old lady left with nothing but memories, you’ll just have this crap where you left her to cry in mind — zero memories of reading wonderful stories as your child lovingly snuggled into you and fell asleep in your lap. This kid will be grown up and out the door in a flash. Maybe you could try a little harder to do a good job on this?

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7. honey says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Is she clingy any other time of the day..or just when it is time for sleeping. Seperation Anxiety is common at her age, it could be that. Do you spend alot of one on one with her. IF she isnt falling asleep in that amount of time, there is obvioulsy a reason why. Don’t allow her to cry for that long… she is just a baby and that IMO is mean!

   If this has been going on for more than a day, without a doubt she is overtired. So whatever is causing this…being overtired is making it worse. So, as a parent of 2, to me this is extreme. Do what you gotta do to get her back to her "normal" sleep time. Stay with her untill she is asleep(if it is Seperation Anxitey..she needs you to be with her.) SA is a phase that comes and goes but, needs to be dealt with, with compassion, allowing her to cry will only increase the anxiety.(if it is SA) She could not need as much sleep as you want her to be getting…phasing out of a nap, which will change her nap time. So go with her clues. If she seems tired at noon..put her to bed. Even in noon wasn’t her naptime before, it may have to be her new nap time now. Babies…go through alot of changes and need there schedules to be adjusted, when needed.

   I would say this sounds like Seperation Anxiety, which is a phase that is soooo hard to go through for them and you. But it needs to be dealt with. If you have to be with her to make her feel safe while going to sleep..do it. as long as she sleeps, she will be happier and sooner get back to her "normal" schedule..new or old.

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8. angelunloved says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   Your baby cries because she is a baby. I never once let my daughter cry it out at bed time and now she goes to bed on her own with zero arguments. You need to develop a transitional bedtime routine that brings the child from the quick moving daytime to some peaceful time with mommy or daddy. Read a book, draw a warm bath, cuddle in the rocking chair, play some peaceful modern music.. You’ll be surprised how quickly this actually works. My daughter began to wind down so well that she was asleep halfway through a board book. Children thrive on routine – letting your child scream their brains out shouldn’t be a routine, and it isn’t the only way to develop independence.

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9. ♥ Blessed 3 times ♥ says:

   November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

   what is wrong with people/// she is manipulating you to love her?? thats what she wants babies dont manipulate they have a need and that need has to be met…stay with her till she falls to sleep do not let her cry that is horrible..she needs you and you need to be there for her…manipulating…I cant believe how ignorant people are…please dont listen to heartless people and hold your baby till she falls to sleep..

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10. Shanan says:

    November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

    Let her cry. Put her back in bed every time she gets out. It will be one or two nights of hell but it is worth it in the end.

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11. iloveflowers says:

    November 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

    This is a very crucial stage in your child’s development,In a book called the continuum concept that I read many years when I was in LaLeche League, there were tribes who fully met their children’s need nursing on demand/child led weaning & marsupial mothering (carrying baby on you). The researcher was stunned to never hear the children/babies cry as their needs were met so completely & they were happy &content.

    I suggest going to mothering.com-speaking w/moms, reading mothering magazine to learn attachment parenting I suggest going to LaLeche League group if possible and being around other moms who are into excellent parenting I strongly suggest a family bed & some TLC for her for a while.The day will come tat she wont do this but its not now..she is little just a1 yr old. Soon she’ll b gone & playing &then gone for good as mine are. You will look back & be glad you took the time to fully meet your child’s needs at your own expense & gain a sense of true femininity & nurturing from doing this with a full heart I never was more nurturing when my kids were little It did pay off w/kids who loved me at least when they were at home with unconditional love returned back to me. My kids had forgiving hearts & loved me so much-it came from meeting their needs, loving them-making them the most important thing in my life

    Go to laleche league monthly meeting & especially its yearly conference w/classes its lots of fun will nudge u in the the value of this type of attachment parenting. learn more about attachment parenting at mothering ,com and LaLeche League and no you are not spoiling her. As the other people said, she needs you and when I say that I am speaking of real primary need

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Okay, so I have NUMEROUS issues with my mom interfering with the way I raise my child. First of all, my son and I live with my mom. He is three years old. My son shares a bed with me. I know thats not cool, but there are no extra rooms for him and our room is so small that he cant have his own bed (and my mom wont allow anyone to sleep on the couch). This has been ongoing since his birth and it doesnt REALLY affect us for the tim being… My real issue is that I hhavent rocke and sang him to sleep since he was like maybe 14 months old. But my mom has when she has had the chance. For the past three weeks she has been home at night when he goes to sleep and she wants to be the one who gets him to sleep. He anf I normally just snuggle up and read together until he falls asleep, but now hes into this routine of being cradled and rocke and sang to (and even walked around the room!) like an infant until he goes to sleep. I dont think its harmful or anythings really wrong with it except that its not my preferred method. when I brought this up to my mom she made me sound like a freak… Am I really wrong? or is she the mentalcase for thinking that thats how babies are meant to fall asleep????

5 Responses to “rocking a three year old to sleep?”

1. Moi says:

   September 12, 2011 at 2:28 pm

   He is THREE years old and YOUR son. She needs to respect that and realize he’s not a baby anymore.

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2. Jennifer Werner says:

   September 12, 2011 at 2:28 pm

   He is too old to be treated like that. He might regress back to infant-like behavior if she keeps babying him. He’s your son and I’d tell her to respect your parenting styles.

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3. Jaamee says:

   September 12, 2011 at 2:28 pm

   It’s okay to rock him to sleep and sing to him occasionally but you should probably talk to her and put your foot down. He really should be starting to fall asleep on his own, or while in bed being read to. Tell her maybe a few times a month or every other week. She wants that sweet grandma time but he really is too old for this nightly and he’s YOUR son so you should really be the one with him anyway. It should be a treat to be rocked to sleep by grandma, not a nightly occurrence. good luck

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4. nancy jo says:

   September 12, 2011 at 2:28 pm

   time to move out. till you can set physical boundaries, you’ll never be able to set emotional ones. get counseling.

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5. bluehairedtaru says:

   September 12, 2011 at 2:28 pm

   Tell your mom she can have him for like 10 mins then you take over so he falls asleep while you read to him.

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so my sons now 11 monthes and he has the WORST separation anxiety EVER.its a long story but his father is just now back in the picture and since its been only me and him, he wont go to anyone but me that lives in our house.i dont know what to do;trying to go back to college, having to do a lot of little things during the day,its hard to even eat with him standing right there, scratching to get up in my lap.i dont mind carting him around a lot but i need a tiny bit of space to do the productive things i need to do.is there anything that i can do to help with this issue?i know its typical at this age and furhter on but is there any way i can make it not so bad…?i mean his dads willing and there to help now but its so hard detaching max from me;so bad in fact that for a few days now hes had to to cry himself either tired or completely to sleep even though i feel bad.:( theres just nothing i can do; he wont let me put him to sleep even when hes tired,and hes so defiant and such a fighter things are getting sort of out of control.and also,it hurts my feelings and his dads that theres nothing he can do to help even though he wants to really badly.what do we do?:/

oh and i should add that he is teething but i give him infants advil and baby nightime formula orajel and his teething toys, but its not so much his teeth as he just wants to be carried around.not just held,but walked around and roughoused.
K:
I’ll spell it out for you:SHUT THE FUCK UP, PUT YOUR TEETH TOGETHER

4 Responses to “Cry it out method and separation anexiety?”

1. Brooke says:

   September 9, 2011 at 7:17 pm

   By picking him up every time he cries for you, you are teaching him that all he has to do is cry to get his way. When my son was doing this, I would just let him cry it out. It was hard not to give in, but a few times of just leaving him to cry, he stopped doing that. When I was ready to pick him up I would but never if he was throwing a tantrum to get his way. You should try giving your son and his dad some alone time together without you there. Not only is it a chance for you to get away and get some alone time, it is time for your son and his dad to get to know one another. Hope that helps good luck!

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2. K says:

   September 9, 2011 at 7:17 pm

   If your son already has seperation anxiety, making him "cry it out" will make it even WORSE.

   What you might try is, one night, have his dad read him a story, sing him a song, usual bedtime routine (the exact same routine as usual), but you’re standing nearby. Then gradually over time, you move further away, until you’re not in the room. That might help.

   EDIT: Okay, I’ll spell it out.

   Imagine you are a very small child barely capable of walking or communicating.

   That man who now lives in your house was never there before, so you’re strongly attached to your mummy because you’re terrified one day she will leave like that man did and she won’t come back.

   Now imagine you’re scared of the dark, and crying for your mummy.

   And crying.

   And crying.

   And she doesn’t come.

   Your worst fears have come true. Mummy has abandoned you! Mummy isn’t coming back! You’re all alone!

   Yeah, so obviously the crying it out method works, not.

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3. Dreamweaver back for more says:

   September 9, 2011 at 7:17 pm

   I never believed in the cry it out method. Im older (42) and my kids are grown and all are just fine. They cried, I went to them. I wanted them to have the security that if they needed me, I was there – no matter what. You CAN NOT spoil a baby. I dont care what anyone says. Yes it teaches them that when they cry you will come. THATS A GOOD THING. It lets them realize they can count on you. A baby doesnt have the brain power to learn to "use" that. They only know they need comfort for some reason. If one of my kids cried longer than 5 minutes, I was there. If it was a REAL cry and not just the whiney "Im barely awake" noise I was there instantly. All but one of mine slept through the night by 3 mos. The one that didnt? Had epilepsy and had night seizures so his crying WAS a "cry" for help tho we didnt know it. Should I have let him "cry it out"????

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4. Deni says:

   September 9, 2011 at 7:17 pm

   I hope that this is helpful but all I’ll do is share my experience. My son was very clingy and I thought giving him more distance would make him used to it. Then it occurred to me how sincerely upset he was and I took the opposite view and approach. I figured that if someone needs something and they don’t get it they try harder and since he was a fairly heavy baby everyone wasn’t as keen to carry him as much as light babies probably got carried. So I committed myself to carrying him around more and he ended up okay. I can’t recall the transition but it didn’t seem to hurt.

   If he’s rejecting dad I’d make sure that I didn’t encourage it but I would sure that he spent a lot of time with both of you until he adjusted.

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I’m extremely irritated now… (I apologize in advance in case I come off whiny)

This is the sixth night in a row where I’ve put myself to bed at 8:30pm and my mind refuses to let me drift off till after midnight!!!

I’ve tried damn near everything I could think of, and any suggestion i’ve found via search engine… Nothing is working. I’ve tried the following:

-hot decaf tea (Can’t do the warm milk idea due to lactose intolerance)
-warm shower
-all lights and all sounds off (although I have an infant that wakes up from time to time for various reasons so the no sounds things isn’t 100%)
-Made sure the room is at the most comfortable temp
-exercise
-not consuming any caffeine after noon
-eating my final meal of the day on or before 5pm

This wasn’t on the sites i’ve looked at but my husband has tried massaging me before I sleep, but that actually seems to keep me awake longer!

This is rather embarrassing but sex has been the only thing that made me fall asleep shortly afterward. … But i’m not a rabbit (lol), I can’t jump on my husband every night just to get some decent sleep. (besides, he works graveyard and is only home 3 days out of the week.)

As i mentioned in that list, i have an infant… And he wakes and will not go back to sleep after 5:30am. So this has kind of become quite a big issue…

I’m HOPING to avoid sleep aids (not that I wont use them if all else fails), so I’m wondering if maybe there are any other suggestions others here may have that I may not find on google.

Thank you in advance.

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1. Susan Yarrawonga says:

   July 22, 2011 at 4:52 am

   To sleep better just relax and switch off, if you can.

   If you are having trouble switching off at bedtime some light exercise (for example, push ups or sit ups) at bedtime often helps you to relax, unwind and switch off and that often improves your sleep. Strenuous exercise at bedtime is likely to ruin your sleep.

   Common sleep aids include warm milk, Chamomile tea, 5-HTP, Melatonin and Valerian.

   You can see further tips in a web search for "how to fall asleep and stay asleep".

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2. JonathanR says:

   July 22, 2011 at 4:52 am

   Just dont sleep for one night or just sleep for 3 hours, try to stay awake during the day, go to bed at 8:30 and you’ll see you’ll fall asleep right away. The next day wake up at 5:00 am so that by 8:30 pm you’ll be syper sleepy again

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3. SAM says:

   July 22, 2011 at 4:52 am

   I have to get up at 5:30 am every morning for work so I force myself to go to bed early even though I’m not tired and I had the same problem. I don’t know if this would help you but I started using on of those eye cover things (its like a blindfold that helps you fall asleep naturally) and I relax faster and fall asleep. Even the smallest amount of light keeps your brain awake and active and prevent you from falling asleep. And I’m not a parent but I wouldn’t recommend using sleeping pills if you have a baby because you don’t want to constantly get woken up while drugged up on that stuff. That can’t be healthy. I hope that helps.

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I’ve already begun to write it, now nearly five chapters. But lately I’ve been a bit doubtful, maybe it wont appeal much to people. This really just popped all in my head, for months, and I couldn’t shake it off until I had it written down. (fanstasy. But the beginning has a sort of science fiction touch.) I’d really appreciate comments and opinions, but not too offensive, please. XD Thanks!!

The Mortal world has become dystopia, the stringent government takes control of every little detail concerning the people. It’s as though the world has been reduced to black-and-white. But it hasn’t always been like this.Sixteen years ago, the Chancellor (Their head of government) ordered all orphan newborns to be surrendered to the government, none knew why.for mysterious reasons, the chancellor wasnt satisfied, and that was the start of their tyrannical ways. Unbeknownst to Mortals, the government has been infiltrated by the Demons, the souless reversives of Mages, in search of the then missing,possiblly kidnapped, "Balance", (who would, if chose to, bring balance to the Worlds of the Enchanter [the magical worlds of Mages, Demons, and Illusionists.]) Sixteen years later, a young girl named Caroline is introduced, her life hasn’t been easy.her ‘parents’ found her on their front doorsteps, a baby shivering in tattered rags, right on the dot with the raid,they had a daughetr once themselves, but died as a week-old infant, so they took her in, used their biological daughter’s birth certificates as a coverup to present to the guards. Of course this is all revealed later on. the book formally begins with her and her two ‘brothers’ leaving the group fosterhome theyve been in for almost the whole summer, their mother had been branded unqualified and thier father had gone missing since she was a child. in a short vacation to a semi-isolated island with her foster parents, she meets a small circle of three Mages, two of whom immediately recognize her for who she really is. They take an instant interest with her, keeping a close eye on her for the rest of her whole vacation, even following them back to the mainland. While the trip, demons attack their ship, the mages fight them, abducting Caroline along the way, with the excuse of trying to protect her, they force her to drink some sort of sleeping potion so she’d come. She wakes up in a large, decorative room, something exotic for her. the mages explains few details, like where she is, what they are, but not the real reason they brought her here. Apart from their small circle though, a few fears her, while the majority are fuming that they brought an actual, and possilby dangerous, Mortal into their world.

wee-eell… that’s it for now. I’ve the whole story planned out, but I’m still tweaking them up a bit. I’d really, really appreciate comments. XD

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1. Sophie Portman says:

   June 22, 2011 at 12:00 am

   it’s very good and demons make it very different,i liked it and i would read it,kinda makes me think of a book called the declaration,although theres no demons x

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2. Power Rangers Unite! :) says:

   June 22, 2011 at 12:00 am

   It’s interesting. Not my taste, but it’s alright.

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3. ♥Sam♥ says:

   June 22, 2011 at 12:00 am

   That actually sounds really promising, and sci-fi/fantasy isn’t even my preferred genre. I love how you’re mixing two huge trends right now: the dystopian uber-government and the whole magic thing. When I read about the demons taking over the government I thought it was an allegory for a second, even if that’s not what you intended. I really like this idea.
   That being said, I’m going to give a classic sci-fi/fantasy rule of thumb. Know your world, know its rules, and stick to them. Are the mages more powerful than the demons? Or less? What are some checks/balances that they possess? Can a mage shoot fire as easily as ice? How about diamonds? Can they conjure diamonds? Would that make the concept of an economy obsolete? Just general stuff like that. Other than that, I would change Chancellor, because that’s a little Star Wars-y. I ight change "Balance" to something cooler, like "Balance" in Sanskrit, or maybe some mage-y ancient word that translates to balance.
   Best of luck!

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i had a dream a couple years ago about this deformed(he had 4 eyes 2 where they were supposed to be and one in the middle of the two.the other was below the middle one and had excess skin and he had control of moving it he could stretch it out forward.), really short, almost midget like, man.He came to me and my mothers house and gave us his infant Jordan.that was about 3 years ago. i just woke up from a dream and he was at my moms but the baby wasn’t he was at my dads cause my house wasn’t safe for him(he wanted the baby back which for some reason was still an infant).there was conversation between him my mom and i but i cant remember what was said but i remember toward the end he was upset and i sat next to him and said "you don’t know what you did when you brought us that beautiful baby and i wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that" and he said " its already to late. i remember being really scared like he was really evil(not demonic)next thing i know im playing around with friends but clinging to them because i was scared. i saw my brother in laws sons and told them to grab my arms and run to their house with me it was important and i could die. we got to his house(it was diagonally from ours)and i tried to scream "mike mike" but i couldn’t so i asked one of his sons to scream to his dad to come here but he wouldn’t for some reason. i explained to him really fast that it was important and we could die but no use.i tried screaming again and it worked. i got his attention and motioned him to come outside.he did with his wife and roommate. i explained everything and the evil guy was right there in front of us. his roommate said to stay behind him as we all walked backwards. mike was like staring him down or something.but he wasn’t scared. i started to cry and his roommate(its a girl by the way) hugged me and said not to be scared. we thought we ran him off so we all went to my place to check on my mom who i had left there by herself with him.next thing i remember is seeing to cops burst down our street and when they got to the end of the road they went opposite directions. i remember the next thing that happened was mike was going to go check out this pile up of vehicles that had happened just then. we didn’t hear it or anything it was just there next i remember.i begged him not to and was really scared while he was over there so we all went over to him. he was looking around with a flashlight cause it had been nighttime and really dark the whole dream. he came to this garbage truck(it looked brand new and had not been in the pileup of cars even tough it was.it was chrome.)he tapped the window of the truck and looked back at us like yea hes gone for good. he starts to climb down and on the side where you would put trash there was like ladder like stairs. he was climbing down got almost to the ground and the truck started up and the guy was inside and started controlling the part of the truck that crushed up garbage. we all screamed to mike"let go! let go!"but he wouldnt. we screamed some more but he wouldnt. he had on this leather thing on him that had small chains for sleeves and i jumped up and grabbed it to pull at him hoping he would fall off with me.he didnt. i heard in the backround "its no use he wont let go his prides to high for that" i went back over to them and we were horrified as the truck cruched him up. he was half a body by the time we all were unfrozen and i said "hey guys do you think we should go back to your house"i was still terrified even though i said it in a joke like tone. his wife said yea lets run as fast as we can though. we started to walk past him and the truck real slow as if hoping to sneak past and then i woke up.
I am still pretty shaken and cant sleep cause im still scared. any advice on what this dream means and how i can fall back asleep would be greatly appreciated.i dont have nightmares often either its just really freaking me out and i like some help.

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1. Alan Harmony says:

   June 18, 2011 at 4:50 pm

   Try breaking it up into paragraphs, capitalizing first letters of sentences, and use this for a guideline http://www.cprize.org/lessoninrecall.pdf

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